It's not his fault. He was angry

‘You are coming to Dad’s this weekend, aren’t you?’

His sister shakes her head.  ‘I’ll come when he apologises.’

‘C’mon!’ He raises his voice in frustration. ‘Get over it, for goodness sake!’

‘Did you hear what he said to me? All the abuse, the swearing, the slurs and insults?’

‘Yea, I heard. But it’s not his fault. He was angry. Just forget it.’

Pardon? It’s not his fault! Since when is bad behaviour excused on the grounds of emotions being out of control? Who owns those emotions? Do our emotions serve us or do we obey our emotions.

Today one can be sued if the thief hurts himself while breaking into your house. We expect insurance companies or someone to cover our loss if we break something, lose it, or drop it the ocean. What happened to personal accountability?

Sometimes it seems most of our society believes–

• ·         Verbal anger is all right if one is angry or drunk
• ·         Belting your spouse is the victim’s fault because they caused the anger
• ·         Hitting a cyclist in your car should be excused cause you didn’t realise you were over the blood alcohol limit
• ·         Aborting a baby is okay because the mother has a life to lead. (As if the baby doesn’t)
• ·         Telling lies is acceptable, even in parliament, if you’re sure you won’t be caught.

Then we perpetuate the problem by over protecting our kids so they can’t get hurt. As a result, they never learn how to look after themselves. They don’t get an opportunity to practice personal responsibility.

The other basic drive of this generation is ‘if it feels good, do it!’ So our youth are addicted to drugs and trapped by alcohol and nicotine. Immorality is the accepted norm.

What will be the final outcome? Somewhere our society will experience the harvest of this folly.

 Go with me to 2020. Let’s peek into the life of Authur Average. Arthur is a good bloke. He finished school and has a steady job. He’s lived with a couple of girls but now he’s moved on and it sharing a unit with a couple of guys and girls. He’s stable. Recently he had a crash on his motorised skateboard on the way to work. He spent a day in hospital. They took blood tests as a precaution.

Arthur didn’t give it a thought at the time. Now he stands looking at the letter. His hand shakes. His eyes skim to the name on the top of the letter. Yes it’s him. The DNA police have caught him.

          Dear Mr Average

          Your recent blood test identified your DNA. Our computer cross                           references identify your children as listed below. It is your responsibility to financial support your children until they are sixteen years of age.

Oh, no! Arthur is being held accountable! The things done in secret are bought into the light. He is being forced to face the consequences of his behaviour.

I know another young man that won’t accept responsibility for his own bills. His says the world is going to end anyway, so why pay them now?

How can we change the trend? The same way we eat an elephant – one mouthful at a time. Start with you and your household. Take responsibility for all your behaviour. Don't blame shift. Don't use excuses. No more denial. Once you take ownership of all your actions and accept responsibility for the outcomes, your life will be transformed. Its called freedom! You will be in control of your life!